Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Exploring Your Family Map
Some patterns to watch for are closeness of family members, communication patterns, behavioral or emotional problems, job problems, addictions, anger and even occupations of family members.
You want to go back at least three generations. What patterns of serious problems do you see? How did your family handle stress, what did their marriages look like, how did parents relate to children, what were some of the health problems in your family line. Was there alot of emotional disconnection in your family line. Did family member feel like they belonged?
Again, this is not to become depressed or angry at your family if there are some destructive patterns. This is an opportunity to look at the reality of what may have been passed down to you and what areas you may need to work on. The more you work on you the better chance your children have of not struggling with these same patterns or at least to a lesser degree. The goal is for each generation to continue to get healthier in every way.
So what do you do with all this information -
1. Look at what family patterns are continuing through you -
2. Admit this is an area you need to work on.
3. Ask God to help you break this family pattern and replace it with something positive
4. Get an accountability partner to work with you on this. Come up with a plan.
If you do all the above and still struggle to get past certain family patterns you may need some inner healing in that area of your life. I recommend Anothenlife Ministries to anyone that needs in depth help in this area of their lives.
The process of genuine change does not occur by magic. Breaking a cycle of family patterns happens not by waving a wand or by reading a verse but with the combination of the Holy Spirit, The Word, other believers in our lives and our own determination and will.
Trust in Him at all time, O people; Pour out your heart before Him: God is a refuge for us. Psalm 62:8