- Ready - Feeling
- Aim - Thinking
- Fire - Acting
Let's go back to Cain:
- Cain Blamed Abel for God's disapproval
- Cain felt anger
- God asked him "why" he was angry
- God already knew but He wanted Cain to acknowledge it
- Cain never dealt with the real issue of why he was angry
To successfully deal with anger we must always first honestly answer the question God asked of Cain, "Why are you angry?"
Anger is the result of four other emotions:
Someone offends you
You feel one of the above emotions
This turns to the feeling of anger
You begin to think about what to say to them
You begin to tell others about the offense
You feel uncomfortable around that person now
You begin to distance yourself from them
You now have resentment toward them
Anger has now become Bitterness
The bitterness is now too uncomfortable to hold in so you may lash out or gossip or withhold relationship in an effort to punish them. Unforgiveness can creep in which leads to broken relationships, destroyed trust and deep roots of resentment.
The thing most people fail to realize is - the person who is most hurt when we get to this point is the person who is angry. It is exhausting to live with anger and bitterness.
This is what the word says we should do:
"Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of malicious behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you." Ephesians 4:31,32
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