Saturday, February 26, 2011

Detoxing our Emotions...

One of things that is done in a detox center is to give the person who is in detox a place to express feelings. There is a reason they do this, because those built up emotions and feelings if kept inside become toxic.

Well, in the same way if we are in the process of detoxing our thoughts and our words we have to deal with emotions that have built up possibly over years. Because all those toxic, negative thoughts have been dumping negative emotions into our spirit and soul. I liken it to a garbage can that keeps being filled up but never emptied out. After a while you can't push the stuff down anymore and it begins to overflow and that is the point where we are no longer stuffing our emotions but we are having outbursts of emotion, many times at inopportune times.

In one of the videos I use, the statement is made that - "Unresolved emotions have a high resurrection rate". In other words,if you hide and bury your emotions, the time will come that they will surely come pouring out.

Getting your emotions out creates a healthy environment in our mind and body.

Some signs that you may be holding in our emotions:
    • Irritability
    • Short temper
    • Over reacting
    • Anxiety
    • Frustration
    • Fear
    • Impulsive
    • A desire for control
    • Perfectionism
    • Self-Doubt
So you say, "Ok I get it, I'm holding in my emotions. So how do I get them out?" I'm glad you asked. What you don't do is begin to explode on everybody.

You need to develop some ways to express emotions appropriately, in an environment that is safe, accepting and non-judgmental.

Here are some suggestions:
  1. Although most people know this helps they don't do it - but if you have emotions that are stuck this will work... WRITING OUT YOUR FEELINGS. Take some time each week to sit down and either journal or just get a piece of paper and write out how you feel and why and with who. Then if you are afraid someone will see it shred it or tear it up. The main thing is to get that built up STUFF out.
  2. Talk to someone. This needs to be a safe, non-judgemental person who will mostly just listen. Again, you are emptying out the garbage and possibly may get some new perspectives as you talk.
Some other ways that people dump emotions appropriately
    • writing poetry
    • drawing
    • typing on a computer
    • talking to yourself on a computer camera
    • exercise and talk to yourself why you are exercising
The main point here is to empty out negative emotions on a regular basis.

Next post: Detoxing our Emotions: Letting go of unforgiveness.


Wisdom's Sister said...

Awesome entry and well needed practical advise.

CoachK said...

Thanks for stopping by Candice! You need to get writing on your blog! We need some Wisdom from Wisdom's sister!! :-)