Monday, July 20, 2009

Rejection and Perfection

Perfection defined:  as lacking nothing essential; being of the highest excellence, flawless, exact, faultless, without defect and being supremely excellent. 

Biblical Perfection defined: Growing to complete maturity

Perfection is another protection we use to keep from being rejected.  Most people with the root of rejection suffer from the problem of perfectionism.  

Do you....
  • try to be perfect through hard work? a workaholic
  • Are you suffering under the burden of never feeling ok, always feeling just a little unacceptable?
  • Do you feel if you could just do better then maybe people would accept you?
The pressure to be perfect will steal your joy.  You won't have time to be happy . You won't have time to enjoy life.  We may even put the burden on others to be perfect and have unrealistic expectations on our relationships.   Perfectionist many times demand perfection from others as well as themselves. 

We reject ourselves and others because of imperfection.  

How do we learn to accept ourselves as we are?  Like many areas of life that we grow in - we must first recognize perfectionism is a problem in our life, then we must make a decision to press on many times a day.  When you do things you wish you hadn't done, or you say things you wish you hadn't said......instead of beating yourself up for hours.... let it go....and press on. 

God doesn't expect us to be perfect but wants us to grow in maturity. Maturity is not doing everything right or perfectly it is knowing we will make mistakes.  Maturity demands that your attitude is, "I have made a decision that I am not going to live under guilt and condemnation.  I am not going to live my life constantly trying to figure out what is wrong with me.  One thing I'm going to do, is to forget what lies behind (my mistakes) and press on to what lies ahead. (greater victory over perfection every day)

Philippians 1:6

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