Friday, January 29, 2010

Day 29 - of 30 Days to a Simplier Life

Two more days! I think I am ready to be done with this. It really has been great and I have learned alot but I am really stretching to find new topics so I'm glad there is only one more day! Today I'm going to talk about "Simple" ways to show someone you love them.

The tendency we have in this area is to show people we love them the way we want to be shown love, but that is not always what that other person needs or wants. I great book to understand this better is Gary Chapman's " The Five Love Languages" Here is a link to take the test,

Here are the five basic ways people want to receive love:
  1. Word of Affirmation: Encouraging, kind and humble words. Example: Compliment them on something that's personally important to them.
    This could have something to do with work or a hobby. It helps if you're saying something in public that builds them up. It also feels good to have something nice said behind your back make it's way to you.
  2. Quality Time : Being together, quality conversation, quality activities Example: Take an interest in what they're doing even if it's not something you'd normally do. You may not be a sports fan or like the same type of movie, but go anyway just to spend time with them.
  3. Receiving Gifts: Moneyless gifts/thoughtful gifts,gifts of your physical presence Example: Not just on Valentine's Day but on a typical day where it really would be unexpected. Pay attention to what a person finds interesting and base the gift on that.
  4. Acts of Service: Household duties, outward duties (run to store, pick up kids) and special favors done (make dinner, change diapers) Example: Do something nice for them around the house so they can spend that time doing something they enjoy. The gift of time is a very good gift, especially for moms who have hectic schedules.
  5. Physical Touch: (Holding hands, back rub) Hugs for no particular reason--they're free and never get old.
These are mainly just a starting point. Ideally, you want to pick out things that will be unexpected to the person as far as timing and still fit their personality. So go out today and show someone you love them!

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails....And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (NIV)


Beverly Walters Whaley said...

GREAT POST AUNTIE K! You have done a dynamic job in your 29 days and counting to a simplier life! You are detailed a bit like the little beaver in your posts and it is what is needed to portray how to get started....not everyone is a self motivator and you have given baby steps for us to begin and put it into practice. I love you and THANK you for your advice, love, research, concern in this past 29 days. I have truely learned so much about myself...and owe it all to you......Really, I am learning that I do know stuff.....if only I apply it more it would help me! Thank you more then you know how much you have touched me!

CoachK said...

Thanks Bev,
It is really the Lion part of me that does the outline points, lions can be very perfectionist in areas that are important to them for the moment. I have tried to learn some Beaver traits though, they really do have some good qualities that are good to use sometimes - just don't want to stay there. :)